on my recent LDK session, the facilitator did advice us to get married ASAP
dont be too choosy..
it is ok even to marry someone who has a lower qualification than you..
what say you? would love to hear from your opinion..
thanks :D
note: it is nothing to do with me..i'm merely wanna see what others think bout the matter..do you mind or don't mind to get a husband that has lower qualification in terms of studies or working life and the reason behind it. hehehe thx!
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it's crap.
whats the point of marriage? if it's to legalize sex, than by all means...choose anyone.
As a muslim, i believe in having a benefical marriage. Complement each other. It's nothing wrong with marrying someone with lower education. As long as that person have initiative to be a better person. Education does not mean one can have a successfull life.
I can marry a mechanic who study at SPM level, but have his own workshop(with workers) and can repair merc or bmw.
Or
I can marry an engineer who all he does is go to work 8am-8pm and sometimes cannot even talk to him in a day coz he so bz with his Test Program or MRB.
Point is, there is no saying that you need to get married just for the sake to be married.
I dont believe in that crap.
good argument zue.
Kiddos
I think at the end of the day, it entirely depends on what you WANT out of the marriage- status? children? as a means of menghalalkan apa yg haram? someone to get old together? someone to change your social standing? someone for you to just call 'abang'? heheh
Personally speaking, God willing, if I reallllyyyy had to choose, Id rather go for someone who's of the same education level as me. Biar higher or same, not lower. I am a hardcore believer in 'sekufu' aka sedarjat. And education tops it than family background in terms of darjat. He can be highly educated but comes from a poor, unprivileged family but at least with the education he has, it shows that he has the means and will to change himself and the people around him for better conditions. Also, bila sedarjat, as a married couple, we have more common grounds and lesser differences to work on or put aside, thus a happier married life.
And to hell whatever that LDK faci promotes- dia beria kenapa? Dia nak sponsor you all nye marriage costs ka? And dont be choosy? Hell with it too. Dia igt dia bercakap dgn budak2 umur 14 tahun zaman 1960s ka? It's our birth right to choose the man we want to become our husband, the father to our children and looking at the bigger picture- the addition to our immediate family (susah you, kalau family and in laws cannot masuk- many people tend to overlook this- sama2 graduates pun problem, nih lagi bukan...)!
engineer tatap menjadi poojaan hatiku.. ahahaha....
minah good argument...
till now i'm still holding the sekufu word as what you've told me! tapi education wise it depends..not all educated ppl are really using their brains when it comes to marriage..hehe
shidah: hahahahah tak abis2 bah. mana mau cari engineer for you nih?? hahaha
ayeen, cari jgn x cari.. cepat sket yerr.. dugaan byk nih ahaks.. sabo je ler
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